The psychologist Alfred Adler suggested making a distinction between people, who are worth caring for, and unacceptable behavior, which has to be addressed. “I love you but your behavior is unacceptable, and I expect you to change it for the
Social pressure can’t get to your central core. You are free in that core even when your body is being pushed or pulled around, negative words are used, and others speak to you in demanding or demeaning tones. It’s good
When you are not in touch with the wholeness that comes from the feeling of belonging to life, you are vulnerable to social manipulation. Others can deceive, coerce or bully you to submit to their specific personal or social agenda.
Even when you are strong, some people may still be toxic for you and you may be wise to exclude them from your circle of daily interactions. However, avoiding such people does not mean that it’s okay for you to
What price do you pay for membership? Do you give up personal independence and freedom to become and remain a member? Why are you willing to do so? When you’re only weakly committed and unaware that you most truly belong
Look around. Yours is an extremely diverse, complex, complicated human world. I’m in Los Angeles right now, in a hotel room, with desk and chair, toilet and TV, shower and windows, my computer and a cell phone that connects me
Imagine a social group in which the members unconditionally accept and celebrate the talent, uniqueness and contribution of each individual. Is that even possible? It is, and it’s super-helpful in a world in which you live surrounded by strongly held
Social health involves membership in groups larger than your individual self. On the negative side, groups enable you to let others lead you. They can give you a sense of belonging before you’ve discovered that by nature, you first and
Social ease and connection is the sixth key part of Total Sexy Health Designed By Nature. A few years ago, a credit card company ad trumpeted, ‘Membership has its privileges.’ It’s true, and membership also has limitations, disadvantages and restrictions.
Stress is the great global disease of modern times and the root of much of what ails us. I’m in a hurry. You’re in a hurry. Everybody is chasing around, cutting corners, trying to get stuff done. Human beings turn