Udo Erasmus, Author at Udo Erasmus

20 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 12: Discontent

Your actions express your state of being.

Self-actualized people all speak in personal ‘incorrect’ ways, spontaneously, without memorized sets of stories, texts and explanations. They don’t stick to only a few limited scripts. They encourage you to convey your own experiences uniquely, and welcome you to give

18 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 11: Behaviour

The psychologist Alfred Adler suggested making a distinction between people, who are worth caring for, and unacceptable behavior, which has to be addressed. “I love you but your behavior is unacceptable, and I expect you to change it for the

11 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 10: Pressure

Social pressure can’t get to your central core. You are free in that core even when your body is being pushed or pulled around, negative words are used, and others speak to you in demanding or demeaning tones. It’s good

06 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 9: Belonging

Who do you have to pretend to be to get along.

When you are not in touch with the wholeness that comes from the feeling of belonging to life, you are vulnerable to social manipulation. Others can deceive, coerce or bully you to submit to their specific personal or social agenda.

04 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 8: Strength

Even when you are strong, some people may still be toxic for you and you may be wise to exclude them from your circle of daily interactions. However, avoiding such people does not mean that it’s okay for you to

30 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 7: Membership

Build your own presence, and be comfortable and confident in it.

What price do you pay for membership? Do you give up personal independence and freedom to become and remain a member? Why are you willing to do so? When you’re only weakly committed and unaware that you most truly belong

28 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 6: Invention

Let your talents and efforts speak for themselves and for you.

One of my inventions has made it around the world, far broader than I could have ever done alone, simply because others stole it. Theft of ideas does not diminish me. It enhances me, and that’s sexy. After all, thieves

23 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 5: Talent

Look around. Yours is an extremely diverse, complex, complicated human world. I’m in Los Angeles right now, in a hotel room, with desk and chair, toilet and TV, shower and windows, my computer and a cell phone that connects me

21 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 4: Going Deeper

Accept your whole being. You are life. You are sexy. You’re not What you’ve felt What you were forced to believe as a child by bullying adults who themselves had gotten lost What you’ve thought What you’ve said

16 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 3: Acceptance

Imagine a social group in which the members unconditionally accept and celebrate the talent, uniqueness and contribution of each individual. Is that even possible? It is, and it’s super-helpful in a world in which you live surrounded by strongly held

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