Social Ease And Connection, Part 3: Acceptance
Imagine a social group in which the members unconditionally accept and celebrate the talent, uniqueness and contribution of each individual. Is that even possible? It is, and it’s super-helpful in a world in which you live surrounded by strongly held and unfounded opinions. But it begins with self-acceptance. It’s a challenge.
You don’t fully accept yourself. All your life, you’ve been told you should be different from the way you are. It began with others around you telling you that you’re not enough. You bought into it and now, with no provocation, you take yourself down daily, repeating to yourself sub-consciously that you’re not enough and not worthy of love, and have to keep trying to become better. But if you begin with the conviction that you’re not enough, nothing you do can fix that. You have to drop the conviction.
Where is the biological, real evidence and proof that you’re not enough? Did life ever tell you that? No, life never said that. When life decides you’re a failure, it unceremoniously recycles your body. The fact that you’re alive, human and here is PROOF that you’re enough and life wants you here. Stop your sexy-choking self-BS.
Take a deep, sexy breath. Let go of your thoughts and feel inward. Close your eyes and look inward. Listen into your being. Ooh, you are so beautifully rich and full in complete stillness. Do you feel it? Do you hear it? Can you see it? Do this every day. How else will you learn to get and stay out of the ‘not enough’ program in your head? How else will you discover that you’ve always been loved and cared for, and have always been sexy? Nothing’s ever been wrong with what you, in essence, are.
Only in thinking disconnected from life can you invent self-rejection. Reject that kind of thinking instead of rejecting yourself. Nothing you think is ever true. All thoughts are made up, unreal, created out of nothing and arbitrarily conjured into being. Yet you desperately cling to them like they were gospel truths.
Let them go, and replace them with the sexy feeling of self-presence and from THAT experience, re-think, re-write, re-work and re-define who you are.
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