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25 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 13: Rules

Rules don’t ensure wisdom or insight.

Another consideration of social groups involves looking at the nature of their books of rules and constitutions. First, all sets of rules and all constitutions are flawed documents. Why? They’re flawed because they’re products of human minds, which are

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20 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 12: Discontent

Your actions express your state of being.

Self-actualized people all speak in personal ‘incorrect’ ways, spontaneously, without memorized sets of stories, texts and explanations. They don’t stick to only a few limited scripts. They encourage you to convey your own experiences uniquely, and welcome you to give

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18 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 11: Behaviour

You are life.

The psychologist Alfred Adler suggested making a distinction between people, who are worth caring for, and unacceptable behavior, which has to be addressed. “I love you but your behavior is unacceptable, and I expect you to change it for the

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11 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 10: Pressure

This is especially important to athletes.

Social pressure can’t get to your central core. You are free in that core even when your body is being pushed or pulled around, negative words are used, and others speak to you in demanding or demeaning tones. It’s good

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06 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 9: Belonging

Who do you have to pretend to be to get along.

When you are not in touch with the wholeness that comes from the feeling of belonging to life, you are vulnerable to social manipulation. Others can deceive, coerce or bully you to submit to their specific personal or social agenda.

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04 Jun

Social Ease And Connection, Part 8: Strength

Make time alone with yourself.

Even when you are strong, some people may still be toxic for you and you may be wise to exclude them from your circle of daily interactions. However, avoiding such people does not mean that it’s okay for you to

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30 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 7: Membership

Build your own presence, and be comfortable and confident in it.

What price do you pay for membership? Do you give up personal independence and freedom to become and remain a member? Why are you willing to do so? When you’re only weakly committed and unaware that you most truly belong

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28 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 6: Invention

Let your talents and efforts speak for themselves and for you.

One of my inventions has made it around the world, far broader than I could have ever done alone, simply because others stole it. Theft of ideas does not diminish me. It enhances me, and that’s sexy. After all, thieves

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23 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 5: Talent

Yours is an extremely diverse, complex, complicated human world.

Look around. Yours is an extremely diverse, complex, complicated human world. I’m in Los Angeles right now, in a hotel room, with desk and chair, toilet and TV, shower and windows, my computer and a cell phone that connects me

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21 May

Social Ease And Connection, Part 4: Going Deeper

Accept your whole being. You are life.

Accept your whole being. You are life. You are sexy. You’re not What you’ve felt What you were forced to believe as a child by bullying adults who themselves had gotten lost What you’ve thought What you’ve said

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